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New Year’s Resolution for Parents: Discipline, Not Punishment

Expert says Discipline Brings Connection, Punishment Brings Fear

It isn’t among the usual New Year’s resolutions, such as quitting smoking or losing weight, but according to one expert, a goal for 2014 of parenting through discipline instead of punishment can have life-long positive effects. Ingrid Bauer, a mother of four and an expert on communication within families, said there’s a big difference between punishment – such as spankings or time-outs, that may just teach kids not to get caught next time – and discipline, which can teach values and bring parent and child closer. “Working with a child in partnership, you gain their trust, and the motivation for them to behave in ways that you hope, and that will benefit them, comes from inside them; whereas punishment is all motivated primarily through fear of something external, rather than being connected to why they’re doing something,” she explained. Bauer said that better than meting out punishment when a child misbehaves is to talk with the child, try to understand why the kid acted out, and then work together to change the behavior. (contd.)  Podcast and entire story available:http://www.newsservice.org/index.php



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