11:54 am - Thursday December 14, 2017

Bikes, Bourbon, and Rock

The Virtues of Bikes, Bourbon and Rock N Roll

Blurring Gender Roles are Fine, Writer/Rocker Says, But Men Still Need to be Men

Does a real man stay at home with the kids while his wife goes to
work? Is he OK if she earns more than him? Will he do the cooking –
and like it?

Yes, yes and yes, says contemporary philosopher Eli Just, author of
the popular supernatural adventure series that begins with “Manny
Jones and the Place” (www.elijust.net).

“The ‘new masculinity’ – the new manly man – understands the value of
blurring those old gender lines. And he’s also found the satisfaction
and real pleasure that comes with some of those things,” Just says.

“But he balances that with some of the old old-school ideas about what
it is to be a man. There’s still a lot to be said for the freedom of
roaring along a highway on a motorcycle, sipping bourbon, and
playing rock ‘n roll with your buddies in the garage.”

Just points to a poll of more than 87,000 men in the United States,
Canada, the United Kingdom and Australia. AskMen’s Great Male Survey
found that:

• 94 percent would feel fine about their wife earning more than they
do. (“That may just indicate we’re evolving,” Just says. “It does seem
stupid to be upset about a enjoying a better lifestyle just because
you’re not the one providing it!)

• 78 percent say marriage potential is “very” or “somewhat” important
in evaluating how they feel about the woman they’re dating. (“It’s
nice to see we’re raising our standards,” Just says.)

• 64 percent cook at home and like it – only 5 percent called cooking
“woman’s work.” (“It stands to reason that if your wife is out making
the big bucks, you better learn to cook or go hungry,” Just says.)

• 50 percent say the ultimate manly man is a good husband and father.
That beat out traditional “manly” virtues such as being good at fixing
things (13 percent) and being a great lover (4 percent).

This new appreciation of men’s roles and responsibilities is great,
Just says, but if guys want to remain attractive to the opposite sex,
they need to retain some of their guy-liness.

“Men need to be open to adventure. They need to be courageous. And
they need to lose those little skinny jeans and dress like men,” he
says. “We’re already slipping on achievement – more women are getting
college degrees than men. More women than men are breadwinners.

“There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a woman. I love women.
But men are not women and we shouldn’t try to be!”

What does he recommend for putting some muscle back into manhood?

• Find your sparkplugs. If you don’t know how to change your engine
oil, you need to fix that. Take a class in basic automotive
maintenance and repairs – they’re often offered at adult schools and
community colleges. “There is nothing less appealing to a woman than a
man who has no clue about what’s under the hood – especially when
she’s broken down on the side of the highway,” Just says.

• Do a chin-up. A basic difference between men and women is upper body
strength. If you’ve let yours go, you need to get it back. “Men should
be strong,” Just says. “They should be able to punch the bad guy or
open the pickle jar. Too many of us have let ourselves go. Believe me,
your wife-to-be doesn’t want to be carrying YOU over the threshold!”

• Get over the video games. Men have gotten far too preoccupied with
video games, Just says. “They’re playing in some fantasy world for
hours at a time, getting pale, flabby and weird.” He suggests watching
football. While many a wife and girlfriend complains about the time
her guy spends watching sports, at least he talks to her during
commercials, Just points out. They might even get out and throw a ball
around. “You can’t do that with virtual cyber swords,” he says.



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